My Experience with an Angry Student!

Yes this does relate to self care!

‘Jack’ was not my first experience of angry children. After all I lived with one! I had a very angry daughter. However, this particular experience with ‘Jack’ was very traumatic!

I was on lunch duty with him and allowed myself to get distracted. During that couple of minutes ‘Jack’ decided to try and take over a game of baseball. A teacher, who ‘Jack’ didn’t know, intervened which meant a major meltdown!

I was left to try and calm the boy! At this point he threatened to hit me with the baseball bat. Thankfully I had developed a good relationship with him and was able to talk him down!!!

My main reason for telling you this is because it was traumatic being threatened with the bat and no guarantee he would put it down.

(Now for my criticism of the system at the time).

Did I receive any sort of debriefing- NO!

So what did I do for my ‘self care’?

  1. Went to Maccas for a quiet coffee.
  2. Watched rubbish on TV that night.
  3. Ate junk food.

Stuffed my feelings down so I could cope the next day. (Without ‘Jack’ there, I never saw him again).

Not the healthiest self care things to do!

In hindsight what could I have done?

  1. Coffee at Maccas has always been good for me to sit and debrief myself!
  2. Go for a walk or do some form of exercise to release my feelings!
  3. Have a bath with calming essential oils!
  4. Burn my candles!

I hope this has helped you see you need to find some simple self care things to do!

Tell me some of your stories by leaving me a comment!

Bye for now,

Sarai

Self Care When You Are An Introvert!

Yes I’m using birds again!!!!

Again there are 2 types of introverts!

The dove is easy going, so very adaptable! They want harmony in their lives and close relationships. The dove can be prone to procrastination!

For self care you need to take time out from people. I’ve used the term ‘peopled out’ before to express how I’m feeling. You may enjoy just ‘vegging’ out in silence, maybe not thinking of anything in particular.

Now there’s the owl! They are very deep thinkers, enjoy research, are loyal friends. The weakness for these people they can be prone to depression.

The owl likes time alone as well, however your mind is likely very active, maybe thinking of what you could do tomorrow.

Both the Dove and the Owl could benefit from time spent in nature or going for a solitary coffee at their favourite coffee shop.

An important thing to say here is that all of us are a combination of at least 2 different temperaments.

I am a mixture of the Dove and Owl, so I am a true introvert.

However, my husband is a Dove and Peacock, so he needs people around him but he is very easy going.

Can you work out your combination????

You can go to:

https://openpsychometrics.org>tests

Here you can answer a series of questions which help you discover yours.

So that’s it for today! Will talk again soon!